Lori Alexander’s Answer to Why Women Should Marry

Lori Alexander responds to a woman who wants to know how marriage can benefit her. This women has a salary, apartment, and seems quite content that she has all she needs.  Lori response is so typical but so shocking at the same time:

 “When you marry a godly, hard-working man, you won’t need a degree and a salary. He will be the one out in the world working hard to provide for you while you get to be in your own home and hopefully with your precious children. Instead of working for a boss every day and submitting to his will, you will have the privilege of making your husband’s life better and submitting to him; you know, the one you chose to love until death do you part.”

In other words, you get to be a pampered princess while he slaves away at 2-3 jobs or 70 hours a week to keep you in a cushy life Who wouldn’t want that?!! What a relief to not have to get an education!

You will most likely live in a home, have a car or two, a retirement plan, and health insurance because of your husband’s hard work for you and your family. You may have some children by your husband, if the Lord blesses you with them, that you can be home to watch their first smile, snuggle, and laugh with them, clap when they take their first step, and all of the other many wonderful blessings that come with having children. These children will be blessed to have a father who loves them deeply and is involved with their lives.

Big deal. All things a unmarried woman can have too. Well, the kids–that’s more debatable. More and more couples though are having kids together, living together, but not getting married. So, she can stay at home with her kids too, just not be married.

You will get to live by your own schedule instead of your boss’ schedule. If it’s a pretty day out, you can take your children to the park. If you’re sick, you can rest on the couch while the children play around you. If you get real sick with a brain tumor like I did, your husband will sit by your side in the ER making sure you are being well cared for.

This is such an idealized, romantic view of parenthood.Instead of your boss’ schedule you live by your kids schedule. For example, with babies or toddlers—you base your day around their naps. You can’t just do what you please.  No, if you are sick–the children don’t just play. They have needs too. They still need meals made(from scratch no less), bathed, and tons of attention depending on age. And NO not all husbands care enough to sit by your side or have their own business (like Lori’s husband) that can afford them flex time to be able to go to the ER.  Most men have employers that aren’t even that flexible with giving time off for paternity leave, let alone to care for a sick family member. Having a business owning husband is a luxury.

You can meet a friend for coffee and help those in need since you’ll be more available. You’ll have plenty of time and energy to go shopping, cook healthy meals from scratch, and keep your home clean and tidy. You will teach your children all of the wonderful ways of the Lord and watch them grow in the wisdom and knowledge of Him. There is NO greater joy than to see your children walk in truth.

Depends on the age of your kids though. If you have young kids, no you will not have free time for coffee and to help others. You can barely help yourself. Bullshit on you’ll have plenty of time and energy to go shopping, cook healthy meals from scratch. and keep your home clean and tidy. Lori is selling a LIE. An ABSOLUTE LIE about motherhood of young children. Maybe though if you, like Lori,  have a housekeeper, nanny, and force your kids to sleep train at 6 weeks via crying it out–you will have time and energy too!

You’ll have a man around to help you with things that you are unable to do. He can carry and move things that are too heavy for you. He can fix things that you are simply unable to fix. He will protect you since he is much stronger than you. If an intruder were to come into your home, he would be the one to go after him. He will help you to see when you are being deceived by someone since men are usually not as easily deceived as women. There’s no way you would ever want to divorce this man even though he won’t be perfect because neither are you!

No, if he is being a workhorse provider he isn’t going to have time to do things around the house. He can’t do everything.  Wow, does this make woman look weak and pathetic. No, no, no! Women have to learn these things for themselves. Again, if he is working so much to provide, does a lot of business travel he isn’t going to be there to protect you or lift heavy things. You have to learn how to take care of yourself.  Lori has said that Ken use to business travel a lot, I have to wonder a home intruder while he was away, who would have protected her? Oh, and women are more deceived, don’t get me started!

That concludes my rant. Lori goes on to say more and you can read it here.  Truth is marriage doesn’t really benefit men or women anymore. Its nice and all, but women don’t need it for their survival like they use to.

I would love to hear the woman’s response to this who originally posted the question, but I doubt Lori will let through her reply.